The Glossary

A definitive guide to the terminology of the lifestyle. From etiquette to essential definitions, navigate the Society with confidence and clarity.

Quick Guide

Consent

A clear, voluntary, and enthusiastic agreement to engage in specific sexual activity.

Soft Swap

Engagement involving oral sex or manual stimulation between couples, excluding penetrative intercourse.

Full Swap

Sexual activity between couples that includes penetrative intercourse with each other's partners.

Unicorn

A single person (typically a woman) open to joining a couple for a shared experience.

A

Aftercare

Emotional and physical comfort following intense or intimate experiences. A cornerstone of responsible play.

Airspace

Personal physical boundary at events. Respecting airspace is the primary etiquette rule.

B

BDSM

Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism. A broad umbrella that overlaps significantly with the lifestyle community.

Bi-Curious

Interested in exploring same-gender experiences without necessarily identifying as bisexual.

C

Consent

Voluntary, enthusiastic, ongoing agreement. The cornerstone value of the lifestyle.

Compersion

Joy experienced when witnessing your partner's pleasure with others. Often described as the opposite of jealousy.

D

Dungeon

A dedicated space — often within a club — equipped for BDSM activities.

E

ENM

Ethical Non-Monogamy. An umbrella term for relationship styles involving consensual intimacy with multiple partners.

F

Full Swap

Penetrative sexual intercourse between members of different couples.

FWB

Friends With Benefits. A non-romantic connection that includes physical intimacy.

G

Group Play

Sexual activity involving more than two participants in the same space.

H

Hall Pass

Permission from a partner to engage in sexual activity with someone else independently.

Hotwife

A woman in a committed relationship who engages in sexual activity with other men with her partner's knowledge and consent.

P

Play Party

A social gathering where sexual activity is welcome and expected among consenting participants.

Polyamory

The practice of maintaining multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships simultaneously with the knowledge and consent of all involved.

S

Soft Swap

Oral or manual stimulation between members of different couples, excluding penetrative intercourse.

Same Room

All activity occurs within visible presence of your partner.

Stag & Vixen

A couple dynamic where the male partner enjoys watching or knowing about his female partner's encounters.

T

Threesome

Sexual activity between three consenting participants.

U

Unicorn

A single person (often a woman) willing to join a couple. So named because of their relative rarity.

V

Vanilla

Conventional sexual practices or people not involved in the lifestyle/kink community.

Voyeur

A person who derives pleasure from watching others engage in intimate activity, with their consent.